I’m in a lot of social media groups for divorced folks. Local ones, but also national; and I read a ton in the field. So every day, multiple times a day, I’m engaging with people who are getting and who have gotten a divorce. If you’ve read any of my other writings you know that…
The thing no one tells you about parallel parenting
It would’ve taken too many words to explain it to him. And I couldn’t find a way to put it to him that would a) make things make more sense, and b) make him see things my way. I even put it into AI and it still sounded like I was trying to prove a…
If you know me at all, you know I struggle with my ex-mother in law. Divorced life affords you the freedom to not have to interact with in-laws if you don’t want to, though sometimes (you live in the same town… you’re at the same kid event…) you end up in their field. Recently I’ve…
You Really Don’t Have it Over Your Co-Parent. I Promise.
This week I came face to face with my most unskillful self. I watched as I took a mostly harmless situation and turned it into a nosedive of blaming others, projection, and self-pity. I was angry and hurt (about nothing that actually has any relevance to anything anymore, as these things usually go), and I…
Documentation is a tactic frequently used in high conflict divorce. Recommended by divorce coaches everywhere, including myself, you write down basically all the infuriating, terrible, and stupid stuff your ex does. It’s a way to keep track of breaches of your court order, your kids’ well-being, and your rights as a parent. Having a parenting…
How the same patterns exposed in the Epstein files–wealth, influence, and lack of accountability–show up in high-conflict divorce
Reducing divorce conflict starts with our own minds