The Runaround
The goal was never to win the coordination battle with your high-conflict ex
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Not Enlightened
This week I came face to face with my most unskillful self. I watched as I took a mostly harmless situation and turned it into a nosedive of blaming others, projection, and self-pity. I was angry and hurt (about nothing that actually has any relevance to anything anymore, as these things usually go), and I…
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Just the Facts, Ma’am
Documentation is a tactic frequently used in high conflict divorce. Recommended by divorce coaches everywhere, including myself, you write down basically all the infuriating, terrible, and stupid stuff your ex does. It’s a way to keep track of breaches of your court order, your kids’ well-being, and your rights as a parent. Having a parenting…
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Nothing To Defend
My daughter has a vendetta. A girl at school, who to me still remains nameless, has done something that has made my daughter decide to seek revenge. While I may never know the offense, so far there have been elaborate plans with friends that will culminate at the end of this week with some sort…
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Institutional Betrayal
I didn’t know it was a thing. I just knew that, the other day while driving around listening to the news, I felt a sudden and profound sense of loss. It was transition day, and my kids were going back to their dad, so at first I figured that was it. But let’s face it,…
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Saturday Was A Terrible Day
I gave it all my meditative powers and it still sucked.
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When the System Protects Power
How the same patterns exposed in the Epstein files–wealth, influence, and lack of accountability–show up in high-conflict divorce
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Drinking the Poison
It really doesn’t make the other person die.
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The Mind in High Conflict
Reducing divorce conflict starts with our own minds
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Oh, The Places We Go
When our minds aren’t helping us move away from divorce conflict
