If you know me at all, you know I struggle with my ex-mother in law. Divorced life affords you the freedom to not have to interact with in-laws if you don’t want to, though sometimes (you live in the same town… you’re at the same kid event…) you end up in their field. Recently I’ve…
This week I came face to face with my most unskillful self. I watched as I took a mostly harmless situation and turned it into a nosedive of blaming others, projection, and self-pity. I was angry and hurt (about nothing that actually has any relevance to anything anymore, as these things usually go), and I…
Documentation is a tactic frequently used in high conflict divorce. Recommended by divorce coaches everywhere, including myself, you write down basically all the infuriating, terrible, and stupid stuff your ex does. It’s a way to keep track of breaches of your court order, your kids’ well-being, and your rights as a parent. Having a parenting…