And now for some strategies on working with this problem on the micro level—taking your power back through parallel parenting.

As promised, we’ll continue our discussion about how women fare financially in divorce, the financial impacts of post-divorce abuse, and the sometimes difficult but always powerful parallel parenting.

Like all good things in society, money and power are wielded by people who are pretty much anything but divorced mothers.

It’s the term I use to describe what happens when I find myself suddenly scrambling to fix things for my kids.

Depending on where you are in your divorce process, you may be one of those people who believes that telling your ex when they’re wrong is absolutely the thing you’re supposed to do.

The thing about it is, when we let ourselves feel our feelings, like, really let them be there just as they are, then we’re able to move out of our anger, our righteousness, our victimhood.

I see a lot of people who believe that they don’t have the time or energy to do things to take care of themselves.

Living with someone who displays behaviors and makes decisions based on their own self-interest, coupled with a lack of concern for the needs of others, can be extremely disruptive.

Adults locked in battle over a position to which they are holding so tightly that they cannot see the other person’s experience.

The family court system, with its outdated and uninformed structure, believes that families who can’t get along do so because both parties are behaving badly.