This week I came face to face with my most unskillful self. I watched as I took a mostly harmless situation and turned it into a nosedive of blaming others, projection, and self-pity. I was angry and hurt (about nothing that actually has any relevance to anything anymore, as these things usually go), and I…
Documentation is a tactic frequently used in high conflict divorce. Recommended by divorce coaches everywhere, including myself, you write down basically all the infuriating, terrible, and stupid stuff your ex does. It’s a way to keep track of breaches of your court order, your kids’ well-being, and your rights as a parent. Having a parenting…
My daughter has a vendetta. A girl at school, who to me still remains nameless, has done something that has made my daughter decide to seek revenge. While I may never know the offense, so far there have been elaborate plans with friends that will culminate at the end of this week with some sort…
I didn’t know it was a thing. I just knew that, the other day while driving around listening to the news, I felt a sudden and profound sense of loss. It was transition day, and my kids were going back to their dad, so at first I figured that was it. But let’s face it,…
I gave it all my meditative powers and it still sucked.
How the same patterns exposed in the Epstein files–wealth, influence, and lack of accountability–show up in high-conflict divorce
It really doesn’t make the other person die.
Reducing divorce conflict starts with our own minds
When our minds aren’t helping us move away from divorce conflict
Leaving the marriage doesn’t automatically mean you’ve left the relationship.